（槟岛西南区27日讯）一名前途大好的年轻工程师疑不堪新工作压力在上班途中，到峇央峇鲁某商业大厦8楼停车场坠下，当场死亡。 上述事件是于周三上午约8时许发生在峇央峇鲁阳光广场旁的商业中心旁。 死者为刘俊伟，今年24岁，生前和父母居住在北海拉惹乌达，而他是在峇六拜一间跨国工厂任职工程师，每天从槟城来回工作。生前有一名交往了7年，在银行任职的女友。 据了解，死者坠楼的地点也是他每天上班前，都会驾车前往购买三文治早餐的店面前。死者坠下后，一双黑色的鞋子脱落在尸身旁。 警方是从死者身上钱包内的证件证实死者的身份，过后，警方也打开死者的车子进行调查，并从死者的车上找到一件相信是属于死者的工作制服。当时，死者的车子就停放在事发地点旁的市政局停车位上。 西南县警区主任哈达警监透露，根据初步调查，死者是在上午8时18分将其迈薇车辆停放在峇央峇鲁冷当玛央巴锡商业中心后的市政局停车格，然后走上第8楼的商业中心停车场，并从该处墜下。

In one of the yoga poses, I was required to turn my back 90 degrees to the back.
I was staring at my own face on the mirror.
I didn't see this jovial girl whom I could pretend to be.
Instead I saw a very very unhappy young lady.
A very pitiful young lady.
Just P-I-T-Y-F-U-L.
You'd want to shake her on her shoulders and scream, "What's the *** is WRONG with you?"
I could cry just looking at her.

This is bad.

10 Things To Stop Caring About If You Want To Be Happier

1. What others think
Dance to your own beat. Act dumb. Do whatever you have to but don’t take on board what others think. It’s your life, your decisions and choices. Others love to judge, and why should you care if they do? Only you define yourself, so let them be amused if it makes them happy. When you care too much about that others will say, you live your life for them and not yourself.

 2. Past mistakes
We all make mistakes and mess up in life. That’s just how life goes. Don’t be hard on yourself, though. Accept that everyone gets it wrong sometimes; it’s part of the human condition. You really are allowed to cut yourself some slack. Learn to forgive yourself more often.

 3. Failure
The big “F” word that everyone fears. It doesn’t have to be a scary concept, though. Ultimately, it depends on your attitude to failure. If you see failure as not being perfect, you’re going to be permanently miserable. A more realistic idea of failure is giving up. If you haven’t given up, you haven’t failed. See failure as a learning curve, a trial and error process. See failure as your friend – it’s no big deal unless you allow it to be.

 4. What you don’t have
The human default position tends to err on the side of lack rather than abundance, which is not conducive to feeling carefree. We focus on what we don’t have and end up feeling thoroughly deprived. What’s the point of that? I often tell my clients to focus on the positives of what they have and the negatives of what they don’t have. Why would you want to torture yourself with all the things you don’t have? That type of thinking will not serve you in any productive way at all. Make a list of all the things in your life that you appreciate. There will always be others with more and others with less. What you have is enough.

 5. “What Ifs”
We can drive ourselves crazy worrying about what might happen in the future. No one can predict the future (psychics might dispute this), and there is no point in torturing yourself unnecessarily about things that may never come to pass. Remind yourself that this type of worry is wasted energy and distract yourself. Face worry head on – if you can do something in the present moment, go for it. If not, distract yourself and ‘shelve’ the worries.

 6. “I’ll be happy when…” thoughts
When we believe that we will be happy once something has happened, we effectively put our life on hold until the event happens. Wishing your current life is away is a precious waste of happy moments in life. Be in the moment more and care less about being happy in the future. Decide to be happy now. Happiness is not a destination, it is a manner of traveling.

 7. Regrets
Regret is a part of life. The past cannot be undone, so it pays to look at what you have done in life philosophically. Did you learn something from it? If you learned never to do it again or to try a different approach, then you’ve ended up with a positive result. Accept what has gone before, make allowances for human error and move on.

 8. Rejection
Many of us are so afraid of rejection that we stay in our comfort zones and never risk true intimacy. Wear your heart on your sleeve and risk being vulnerable. The more you hide out of fear, the greater the fear will grow. Show yourself that you can express your feelings and live with the consequences. You will conquer fear of rejection in this way and feel more carefree. Even if the outcome is not as expected, you will soon realize that it wasn’t as bad as you anticipated and that you can deal with it. Be a little more thick skinned, be brave and see life as an adventure.

 9. Society’s expectations
Be thin, be beautiful. Show off your wealth and status and then you’ll be adored. What nonsense. When you like and accept yourself as you are, you don’t need to prove yourself to anyone. Don’t buy into the constant media images of perfection. Most of the images are airbrushed and lead us to believe that we should all look as perfect. Try not to take it to heart. We all like to see perfect images, but don’t lose sight of the fact that most of it is digitally enhanced and not natural. Love yourself, imperfections and all. Self acceptance is true freedom.

 10. Being good enough
It’s easy to feel that we don’t measure up somehow. We live in a competitive world. It’s okay and even healthy to want to improve and grow as a person. It becomes unhealthy, though, when we internalize negative ideas about how we aren’t good enough. Always challenge this type of thinking. What is “good enough”? Where is the international rule book that clarifies what “good enough” is? As long as you feel happy with who you are, where you are and how far you have come, that is all that matters. We all worry unnecessarily and create inner misery for ourselves. Remember the above ten points, as they are definitely items you can immediately remove from your worry list. Hopefully you’ll feel a little lighter and a little more carefree too!

Taken from lifehack

Roman philosopher Cicero wrote
“Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others.”
I have found that those who are most unhappy in life seem to be the ones who feel entitled to more than they have.
I am reminded of a saying I heard years ago “you’ve heard of the man who cried and cried because he had no shoes, until he saw the man who had no feet.”
If our blessings are relative, so gratitude should be.

Taken from mitchellsjourney

LC was flipping the Home Deco magazine.

She asked, "Don't you ever wish your home could look like this?"

I answered, "Yes, I try not to feed this envious feeling. I'd make myself feel sad knowing it will not happen. So, instead, I remind myself that I should be grateful that I can see this magazine pages, being able to admire such beautiful designs."

LC - a devout Buddhist understood my meaning immediately.

We talk about philosophy often, hence I gave such answer.

I would have just nodded if it was any other people who had asked.

In a different scene, Mn asked if I'm ok.

She must have seen my wandering eyes.

"I have this condition for life.* I will never be ok. 

But it's ok."

It's my birthday.
You know you're no longer young when you no longer look forward to birthdays, not your own at least.
If it's other people - it's a great excuse to indulge in food.

I had crepes yesterday.
I bought the online vouchers much earlier and decided to treat myself.
Drank some therapeutic flower tea and ate a macaroon.

I should have taken a pic of the food.
I really need to camwhore more.

I'll just use this photo as credited below. I was there.
Just not at that time this photo was taken . =p

http://marogalfoodparadise.blogspot.com/2012/08/winter-lover-bakery-house-strand-kota.html

I needed to make a birthday wish.
Although I know I do have the strong desire to have someone to hold my hand, I know it's not a wise wish.
I stared at the twinkling star.
I felt the deep sincere yearning in my heart.

" I ask that I smile more. I jump* more. To have more moments of clarity in mind."

*I usually jump when I'm happy/excited. Most of my gym classes require jumping too.

Taken from Viral Nova

When a survivor of an earthquake found a treasured photo album intact in Sichuan, China

When Hawkeye refused to leave the side of his Navy SEAL master

When a soldier met his baby girl for the first time

When Arnulfo Castorena won his first gold medal in swimming for Mexico in the Paralympics

When a man taught his girlfriend the alphabet again after she lost her memory

When teachers in India gave lessons to homeless children

When a man did anything to save his wife’s life

When a woman went to lunch with her husband every day, no matter what

Ten Daily Mini Habit Ideas

 1. Compliment one person

 2. Think two positive thoughts

 3. Meditate for one minute

4. Name three things you’re thankful for

 5. Do one push-up

 6. Write 50 words

 7. Read two pages

 8. Do ten jumping jacks

 9. Go outside and take 100 steps

 10. Drink one glass of water

 You can change nearly any area of your life; and at one mini habit at a time, it’s easier than you think.
 When you remove the pressure and expectations, you allow yourself to start.
 What mini habit(s) will you start today?

Went to Penang for the International Bridge Run.
Was at Sis' workplace to kill time.
It was the last day of school and the kids were playing water gun.

I really enjoy seeing kids play.
I feel like Dickens' -Great Expectations' Miss Havisham, sometimes. =p

10 Things To Remember When Everything Seems To Be Going Wrong

Taken from LifeHack

 1. This Too Shall Pass
Sometimes life’s rough patches feel like they’re going to last forever. Whether you’re dealing with work-related issues, family problems, or stressful situations, very few problems last for a lifetime. So remind yourself, that things won’t be this bad forever.

 2. Some Things are Going Right
When things are going wrong, it’s hard to recognize what is going right. It’s easy to screen out the good things and only focus on the bad things. Remind yourself that some things are going right. Purposely look for the positive, even if it is something very small.

 3. I Have Some Control
One of the most most important things to remember is that you have some control of the situation. Even if you aren’t in complete control of the situation, one thing you can always control is your attitude and reaction. Focus on managing what is within your control.

 4. I Can Ask for Help
Asking for help can be hard sometimes. However, it’s one of the best ways to deal with tough situations. Tell people what you need specifically if they offer to help. Don’t be afraid to call on friends and family and ask them for help, whether you need financial assistance, emotional support, or practical help.

 5. Much of This Won’t Matter in a Few Years
Most of the problems we worry about today won’t actually matter five years from now. Remind yourself that whatever is going wrong now is only a small percentage of your actual life. Even if you’re dealing with a major problem, like a loved one’s illness, remember that a lot of good things are likely to happen in the course of a year or two as well.

 6. I Can Handle This
A lack of confidence in handling tough times can add to stress. One of the best things to remember is that you can handle tough situations. Even though you might feel angry, hurt, disappointed, or sad, it won’t kill you. You can get through it.

 7. Something Good Will Come Out of This
No matter how bad a situation is, it’s almost certain that something good will come out of it. At the very least, it’s likely that you will learn a life lesson. Perhaps you learn not to repeat the same mistake in the future or maybe you move on from a bad situation and find something better. Look for the one good thing that can result when bad things happen.

 8. I Can Accept What’s Out of my Control
There are many things that aren’t within your control. You can’t change the past, another person’s behavior, or a loved one’s health issues. Don’t waste time trying to force others to change or trying to make things be different if it isn’t within your control. Investing time and energy into trying to things you can’t will cause you to feel helpless and exhausted. Acceptance is one of the best way to establish resilience.

 9. I Have Overcome Past Difficulties
One of the things to remember when you’re facing difficulties, is that you’ve handled problems in the past. Don’t overlook past difficulties that you’ve dealt with successfully. Remind yourself of all the past problems you’ve overcome and you’ll gain confidence in dealing with the current issues.

 10. I Need to Take Care of Myself
When everything seems to be going wrong, take care of yourself. Get plenty of rest, get some exercise, eat healthy, and spend some time doing leisure activities. When you’re taking better care of yourself you’ll be better equipped to deal with your problems.

Photographs of the touching embrace were shown across the world and drew comparisons to the 13th Centiry's St Francis of Assisi.
 It was one of a number of public acts of humility carried out by Pope Francis that has inspired an increase in congregation numbers in Catholic churches across the world.
The severely disfigured man whose full-body tumours were lovingly kissed by the Pope has told MailOnline the moving story of his life. Vinicio Riva, from Vicenza in northern Italy, is covered from head-to-toe in painful growths, a symptom of his genetic disease neurofibromatosis, passed down to him by his late mother.

Earlier this month the 53-year-old's picture spread across the world when he was warmly embraced by Pope Francis at one of the pontiff's weekly audiences in St Peter's Square.  The pontiff's hug was 'like paradise', he said, adding: 'He didn't even think about whether or not to hug me. 'I'm not contagious, but he didn't know that.
But he just did it: he caressed me all over my face, and as he did I felt only love.' Mr Riva recollected:
He came down from the altar to see the sick people. He embraced me without saying a word. I felt as though my heart was leaving my body.
'He was completely silent but sometimes you can say more when you say nothing.'
 'First, I kissed his hand while with the other hand he caressed my head and wounds. Then he drew me to him in a strong embrace, kissing my face.
'My head was against his chest his arms were wrapped around me. It lasted just over a minute, but to me it seemed like an eternity.'

 Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2509678/I-felt-heart-leaving-body-Terribly-disfigured-man-held-Pope-relives-moment-moved-world.html#ixzz2l8x1VNJh Follow us: @MailOnline on Twitter | DailyMail on Facebook

Love and sorrow are part of the mortal journey. Both exquisite, both dear teachers of the soul; and I will forever be their student.

- Mitchell's Dad

Taken from LifeHack
Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life. Check out these things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become more mentally strong.

 1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves 
Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

 2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power 
They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

 3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change
Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

 4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control 
You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

 5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone 
Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

 6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks 
They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

 7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past 
Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

 8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over 
Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

 9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success 
Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

10. They Don’t Give Up 
ter the First Failure Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

 11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time 
Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

 12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything 
Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

 13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results 
Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

Photographer Puts Two Strangers Together For Intimate Photographs, And The Results Are Surprising

Photographer Richard Renaldi takes random people he meets on the street of New York City and asks them to pose in pictures together as if they were family members, friends or lovers.

 The subjects are only asked to look like they are showing a brief amount of affection, but the facial expressions and body language within the photos make it seem like these strangers not only know each other, but also share some sort of genuine bond.

This unorthodox recipe for truly magical moments speaks volumes about both art and humanity.

A lot of acquaintance who suffer my similar predicament confided in me that they can't stand browsing their Facebook accounts.

Knowing that their ex-classmates and friends/ acquaintances are busy living a productive and fun life just adds salt to their pain.

I can understand the feeling but I very quickly, almost instantaneously recognise that feeling as jealousy.

And it's wrong.

It's normal as we're all human, but it's also wrong.

I remember sharing this pain with my counsellor years ago. 

She asked, "How does that make you feel?" - the standard counsellor response.

I answered, "They worked hard, obviously they deserve to be where they are. I guess this pain in internally inflicted, that's why it hurts even more."

"What I'm trying to say is, I blame myself and yet, I know I've done nothing wrong.

Why didn't I fight harder? Why did I allow myself to be victimised?

The guilt is killing me inside."

Back to present.

Why this post?

I was browsing my Facebook.

I saw photos of my ex-classmate who was very close in proximity with the instructor whom I'm currently having a crush on.

What a small world.

The photos were taken on the same year I was on my 3rd relapse.

13 years ago, we were doing the exact same thing.

Now, look how different things have turned out for us.

On a different note, I bought a slice of birthday cake for LC.
She was really surprised that I remembered.
I'm glad I did.
=)

By Jonathan Lareau

1. Nothing is permanent.
 Yet we are programmed for the opposite. We want life to feel safe and secure, and permanence gives us the illusion that it is. The reality is that nothing is permanent, and the only thing we know we can count on is change. The more we push for permanence in life, against the current, the more disappointed we become when we find it is not achievable to the extent we think it should be. But if we can accept the fluidity of life, everything changes.

 2. Time heals.
 Why is it that life can look hopeful one day, and so very dark the next? Very little of my actual situation has changed from one day to the next. But my perception of it can change minute by minute based on how I am feeling in that moment—tired or rested, peaceful or angry, whole or damaged. I am learning not to overreact in the moment, or make important decisions when I am feeling down.

 3. Practice gratitude.
 In the midst of turbulence, I have a strong tendency to dwell on the negative. And then everything looks dark and it snowballs. But there are always things to be grateful for in life—my friends, my health, my relationships, my next meal.
 I often think back to my time in Mozambique and remember the crippling poverty that most people live with there every day. And yet they are, by and large, a happy people. We can make a huge difference in our state of mind by focusing more on what we do have, how lucky we are, and counting our blessings.

 4. Be gentle with yourself. I am my own worst critic, focusing on my perceived failings and inadequacies. All this does, I have found, is reinforce the bad. And by reinforcing it, that is the reality I create for myself. So I am slowly learning to cut myself some slack, and perhaps even like who I am. What a concept! There is a direct correlation between how we treat ourselves, and how we are with others out in the world. This is how we can learn to love.

 5. Be here, now. I have a lifelong tendency to look back or forward—anything but being present. Guilt and shame looks back, worry and anxiety look ahead. In either case, it is wasted energy. If I feel that I need to do something to set things right, then I should simply do it, then let it go and not allow these feelings to linger. For me, engaging in activities that force me to stay present helps: skiing, surfing, singing. 

6. Give up control.
 We can plan all we want, but there are much bigger forces at work out there. And the bigger plan for us may not coincide with what we think should happen or the planned timetable we have in our head. I will have faith that the universe wants to help me. My job is to see it, step out of the way, and let it work its magic.

 7. Be yourself.
 I have been a people pleaser for most of my life. There all kinds of expectations out there about what I should do, how I should do it, who I should be, and how I should fit in. And it is impossible for me to keep up, to satisfy everyone else. Far easier for me to finally learn just to be me, and to be comfortable with who that is. We can provide ourselves with a great deal of peace by learning to be ourselves and letting the chips fall where they may.

 8. Eat. Sleep. Exercise.
 This may seem basic, but when my life is in turmoil, I find that these can be the first to go out the window. I skip meals, or eat badly. My sleep suffers and when I am not rested, my whole perspective changes for the worse. That’s usually when I make bad decisions. I feel lethargic and tend to want to skip exercise. But these three are all connected, and they are some of the few things we actually can control to some degree. And when we force ourselves to practice good self-care, we feel better, stronger, and life seems brighter.

 9. Don’t fight the pain.
It’s taken me a long time to learn this one. And I have a history of doing or using anything I can to not feel the pain. I know this doesn’t work because when I mask the pain, it never leaves. It just gets stronger, and comes out in other ways. Pain needs to be acknowledged. And by letting ourselves feel it, it loses its grip, and passes through us much more quickly. I have certainly not mastered any of these, but underpinning it all is a sense of heightened awareness about the feelings I have, and I’m beginning to recognize where these feelings come from. This is the first step in learning, accepting, and rolling with the changes that life offers up.

“Rooftopping” sounds completely made up, but these pictures taken from death-defying heights are real. Men and woman risk their lives, sneak through security and break the law to take pictures of things that you thought weren’t possible.

Taken from http://www.viralnova.com/rooftop-photos/    
 To get the perfect shots, Tom Ryaboi even dresses in attire that is normal for the building. He’ll sneak through office buildings dressed in suits, or through construction sites dressed as a worker.