tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21238395.post4932028202684075729..comments2023-09-16T22:00:57.188+08:00Comments on ...in my Broken Pieces of Clarity....: Brené Brown _ I am Enoughcendolichttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07498035334269666621noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21238395.post-60232375351547928742013-07-06T14:32:46.689+08:002013-07-06T14:32:46.689+08:00I get confused. One must allow themselves to be vu...I get confused. One must allow themselves to be vulnerable to others and be seen, we should not numb ourselves from negative feelings like insecurity, shame and fear. We must wear them on our sleeves and not numb them. If not, we are unable to feel happiness and other positive emotions? Self worth comes from accepting our vulnerabilities and accepting them as what makes us beautiful. Is this about self connection or connecting with others? Feel that this part of what she said might be an overgeneralization. I think many crumble under vulnerability and the only way they can move forward is by selectively numbing negative thoughts, past events and insecurities. It's a coping mechanism. Maybe I personally need more analogies to truly understand her concept. I personally feel that feeling everything in it's full extent is, for the lack of a better word, unsafe. Yes, it takes courage, strength and willpower to be able to put yourself out there and be able to handle any repercussions of it, good or bad. Feel the benefits of it but also needing to accept possible negative feedback. Who really has all those traits? Does it mean we have to tackle every insecurity we have in order to be able to truly feel happiness? Is it even possible? I feel we do need to numb certain aspects of ourselves in order to focus on one thing at a time. Build ourselves one brick at a time. Maybe I personally fear that being vulnerable to others is risky. Maybe she meant selectively choosing who to be vulnerable to? I don't think feeling everything is safe. I guess it takes time. Perfectly loving imperfection is a life long journey for some. My emotions, insecurities, feelings of happiness and sadness are kept in tiny tiny drawers in this huge <br />cabinet. I selectively open them one at a time. I have a special drawer for happiness. I guess it's too rigid? I think I have the tendency to feel overwhelmed and selectively numbing emotions help me cope. Perhaps I'll open all the drawers up at one go someday to test the theory out. Confused. Wish there were more analogies. Probably will read up more about this. Thank you for posting this! Certainly made me think!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com